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Are You Weeds or Wheat?

July 24,2017

A clergy person walked up to the bishop, who was in the middle of a conversation with someone, and said, “My job is to be a pebble in the shoe of the those in power.” The bishop turned to her and said, “Well, right now you are being a pebble in my shoe.” Pebbles they are annoying, one in your shoe and it is all you can think about. You may try to wiggle your foot and move the pebble so it slides down and stops bothering you. But it returns and finally you have to stop, remove your shoe and dislodge the offending stone-which by now feels like a boulder. Weeds are a lot like pebbles. They pop up when and where we least expect them. They are as we know annoying. Just as soon as the garden is weeded or the shoe is cleared return.

Here we are again this Sunday with another story from the farm. Or as we know it the wheat and the tares or the wheat and the weeds. The slaves tell the master that there are weeds growing amongst the wheat. To cover their own backsides they question the master-”Hey what kind of wheat are you growing here?” They certainly do not want the blame for something that is not their responsibility. As slaves they would know any blame would be cast on them.

Weeds in this passage are also known as darnels in the biblical world. Darnels looked like wheat but were toxic to human and animals. Interesting the master tells them to leave them be, at the harvest they will be pulled out, separated and burned. Now one of my questions is if they look so much alike, how will they know which is which? A little research told me darnels turn black when ripened and wheat as we know is brown. So what is the problem? If they know what the weeds look like at harvest, other than the time consumed separating them out, it is safe to say no one will be poisoned.

What exactly is this passage about? It is almost smack in the middle of the Gospel. It is as if Matthew is saying it is time to choose a side. Things about to get real serious real fast and you are either with us or against us. We hear this type of language frequently in our world. Choose a side. Good people and bad people. This is no time for sitting on the fence. Make a decision as to who’s side you are on.

Remember President Bush uttering these words to the nation ten days after standing on a smouldering pile of rubble at the World Trade Center, arm slung around a firefighter. He said to to the world, “You are either with us or you are with the terrorists.” We all knew what he was talking about and we all knew the consequences. Weeds are still the terrorists of our collective garden. They seem to come up at night when we are not looking. Events overtake us and suddenly we are left wondering how could this have happened? Why did it happen and most frightening will it happen again? Weeds of fear and horror have popped up and remain with us in our collective conscience. When anything terrible happens in the world, we immediately leap to the weed of terrorism.

As we know though weeds pop up in our own lives or in the church. What do we do with these weeds when we encounter them? There are some who would stomp on every little thing or fear which gives them offense. Always willing to call attention to least slight or the decision which was not one they are in favor of, causing controversy and stirring up the waters. People whom when coming our way, cause our spines to stiffen as we frantically look for an exit. What is it now we wonder-what is the drama du jour? And there always is one. Usually insignificant.

Maybe you have weeds in your life? These weeds are never alone because we are only too happy to visit them and see how tall they have become in the gardens of our souls. Perhaps it is a hurt suffered long ago which just can’t be left alone it grows wild and unchecked. Or an unrealized dream or a missed opportunity. What happens is one thought leads to another and suddenly you are remembering every little thing which has happened over your lifetime and you have choked off your outlook on life. It has become overrun with every wrong or ill ever foisted up on you. The harvest bitter and ugly.

Now there are others like the master who let things be. And there are people who take this same approach to life. Instead of arguing or focusing on every little thing which has happened to them in life, they let it alone. They don’t nurture the bad memories or hurts in their lives but rather allow them to exist alongside the good. The master hints there will be time enough to separate out the wheat from the weeds but right now is not the time.

Jesus leaves it up to the listener to decide who the enemy is in this story. It could be the Pharisees or Gentiles. The point of the story is though, does it really matter? Isn’t it up to the listener to decide who the story is about. If you are landowner, the story is a servant who is lazy and causing discontent among the household. If you are a servant, it is probably the landowner who has you working from dawn to dusk for barely a living wage.

This is still true today for each and every one of us. We can decide who the enemy is that we allow to run rampant in our garden. It is safe to say there is not a person in this place who has not suffered some sort of setback or disappointment in life. Each of us can if we choose, let the bad memories co-exist alongside the good. They grow together because they make us full human beings. I am not diminishing bad things but I am reminded that the sad times, the angry times and the disappointing times make for sweeter good times. They are intertwined .

Our humanity is also intertwined. There are times, let’s be frank, that we are weeds. We are impatient with one another and impatient with the way things are. Sometimes we are not kind or generous because honestly, in the minute, it is just too darn hard. It is easier to be a weed in those moments than to be a stalk of wheat. Fortunately those times are few and far between. It is better to be a stalk of wheat than to be a gnarly weed. I don’t know about you all but I feel better as a person when I see what life has to offer. Even when there seems to be nothing to be happy about. We are all bound together and Martin Luther King so eloquently said in a speech at Oberlin College, “We are all tied together. What affects one of us, affects all of us.” Weeds and wheat we need one another.

In this parable Jesus doesn’t condemn people-he condemned their behavior. He may have been as frustrated by the people he encountered as much as we are. His spine may have stiffened as he saw his nemesis after temple having refreshments. But he had the uncanny ability to see beneath the human veneer we all put on from time to time. What he saw a group of people who were downtrodden, poor and held captive to a system that depended on their bodies as machines. He understood why they were the way they were at times: judgmental and mean-spirited. He understands the same thing about us-we want to judge and categorize people. It’s what we do. Jesus doesn’t discount these feelings but he tells the disciples let the angels take care of that, focus on the here and now. Focus on perhaps what each of us can do to till our own gardens and let God take care of the rest.

God's Dress Rehearsal

July 03,2017

"Abraham! Abraham! Take your son. Your only the son. The son you love and go up the mountain to sacrifice him." This is the beginning of one of the most if not the most repugnant stories in the Bible. What kind of a loving God would require this of someone? It is no wonder people prefer the New Testament to the Old Testament. We question Abraham's blind obedience to God. Never mind what kind of a God would ask this? What kind of parent would comply? We put people in jail for this type of behavior. We call it child abuse.

But Abraham sets off with Isaac and up the mountain they go. Isaac with the wood strapped to his back. Abraham walks along silently cursing God for asking him to do this. He momentarily brightens and thinks "God didn't let anything happen to Sarah when I pawned her off as my sister." It will be OK. He straightens up and walks along but then dark thoughts crowd in again. He thinks of Ishmael and Hagar being cast out to appease Sarah. Again Abraham curses God for this but then he remembers an angel saved them both. He reminds himself it will work out. After all he keeps telling Isaac that God will provide. Both he and the boy walk along and in one crazed moment Abraham peers over the cliff and thinks to himself, he will hurl Isaac down off the cliff and then he, Abraham, will jump after him. No. No. That is not a plan. So they keep trudging along.

They reach the top of the mountain and Abraham begins to lay the sticks on the altar. He ties Isaac to the woodpile and pushing his face away from his so he can't see the boys face, he pulls out the knife. An angel appears and tells Abraham to stop. Isaac is saved, but we are still left pondering this story. Again we question the characters. What kind of a God and what kind of a father would require and do such things? Some denominations tell us this is a story of ultimate faith in God. And indeed it is, but I think it is safe to say we don't worship a God that would toy with us like he did with Abraham and Isaac. We worship a God who loves us as we are. 

It is easy to follow someone who has authority. I often wonder what I would do with faced with a life and death situation and an authority figure gave directions on what to do. If you will recall, on September 11th the workers in the building were told to go back to their desks that everything was under control. Some did and we know the tragic consequences. What would you do in such a situation? I don't think any of us knows until we are in that situation how we would act. Tragically, we have learned, blind obedience is not always the best decision. If you notice, we never hear about Isaac again and neither do we know if Sarah was aware of what was taking place. Abraham was not only tested by God but his relationship with his son, the son he loved is decimated. How did any of them go on? The toll of blind obedience.

"God! God! Take your son. Your only son. The son you love. Strap some wood on his back after being mocked and beaten have him climb to Golgotha and be crucified." For many years I have had the theory the Isaac and Abraham story is not about Isaac and Abraham but rather God testing himself. As he watches the scene play out between the two, does God wonder could I do that? Could I sacrifice my son? We have our answer. "God! God! Take your son. Your only son. The son you love. Sacrifice him for humanity." He did.

Will You?

June 25,2017

The hymn we just sang “The Summons” was written by John Bell who is a member of the Iona Community. See video link at end of blog.

Bell is a Church of Scotland (Presbyterian) minister interested in congregational renewal. He serves the Iona Community which was founded in 1938 by George McLeod. McLeod witnessed the extreme poverty and hopelessness on docks of Glasgow during the Depression. He took a group of men to Iona to rebuild the monastic quarters of the medieval abbey. The men shared a common life of working and living together and through their relationships they began to once again find joy in life.

Their legacy continues to shape the Iona community today. Iona is not only a center for tourism and pilgrimage, it also serves the volunteers and staff of Iona Community. The Iona Community

The Iona Community, as a radical movement and organisation, is committed to living out the Christian faith in the areas of:

  1. Hospitality, diversity and inclusive community
  2. Worship, faith and spirituality
  3. Social justice and human rights
  4. Politics and campaigning
  5. Gender justice and human sexuality
  6. Environmental stewardship
  7. Peacemaking and non-violence
  8. Healing and reconciliation
  9. We actively and urgently seek to work in partnership with all people of goodwill who share our commitment to just and non-violent action, irrespective of nationality, religion or political creed.

Today’s gradual hymn and the gospel call us to radical discipleship. Jesus is calling upon the disciples to follow him and radically change the world. He is not soft-selling them either. The Summons does not sugar coat what it means to be a true disciple-going to strange places; caring for all even those who do not like you; be vulnerable before God and finally love yourself as you are? Challenging words of us just as Jesus challenged the disciples in today’s lesson.

HIs language is radical-I come to bring not peace but a sword. Families will argue and rise up against one another. Not exactly the kind of language we want to hear from Jesus. Some listeners of the passage have difficulty with the Prince of Peace being less than peaceful. So let’s explore this thought. How does Jesus speaking this way make you think? Does it bother you? Does it repulse you? Give you hope for the forgotten and the lost?

Jesus in the first part of this reading prepares his followers go out and heal the sick and the lame; to cast out evil spirits and to bring peace to homes. He tells them is they are not accepted to leave the town. Nothing too controversial there. Now in the passage we are reading today, Jesus says that families will be torn apart and allegiances are going to be demanded. It is a wonder anyone stayed with him. This Jesus sounds scary and difficult. Maybe they are not ready or up to it. Imagine in a tribal community giving all up to follow a new tribe.

We here, well those of us who are not “cradle Episcopalians” understand what it is Jesus is talking about. If someone who grown up in a church, been faithful in attendance surrounded by family suddenly decides she is leaving her family church, we can well imagine family may be upset. Family religion is an identifier it is tribal-we go to this church and the world knows who you are and what you believe. It is natural for parents and grandparents to wonder what they have done that little Esmerelda would want to leave and go elsewhere.

Jesus says whoever loves father and mother more is not worthy of me. Perhaps what he is saying is if someone is willing to stay in place where they do not feel the presence of God then they are in church for the wrong reasons. The reason we go to church is to further our own relationship with God in a way which makes us happy and ready to serve the world.

Those who find their life may be those who are willing to make the difficult choice of finding a church which makes them feel complete. Perhaps this is your story or the story of someone you know. How many times have you walked into this sacred space and thought to yourself, “this is it, I am here and I feel at home.” How many of you have also stayed somewhere because you hope it will become better or different or you will become better or different? I would venture many of us have done such a thing. That is losing our life so to speak. But when we go where Jesus is felt among us we are losing one life to find a better one. When we find the place where we know we are to be what we have lost while significant is life giving.

John Bell’s fourth verse says Lord, your summons echoes true when you but call my name. Let me turn and follow you and never be the same. When we follow our hearts and listen for the voice of God then we know who we are truly following. It is not necessarily a life of ease but it is one of standing in the light proclaiming boldly who it is we follow no matter where it leads.


Name: Arrenda K. Tarkington-Moore
Comment: These are lovely stories! I will recommend "The Boys in the Boat" to a dear friend that I know has a similar deep-rooted relationship with his father and this too may help him progress and overcome. Thank you and keep the posts coming!
Name: James R. Horton
Comment: Diane, Great read on Oct. 3rd.
Name: Bill
Comment: Thank you
Name: Patti Trainor
Comment: Thank you for the reminders to focus on family and not on the material.
Name: Debra
Comment: Full of salient points. Don't stop beleviing or writing!
Name: Kelly Mitchell
Comment: Hi Diane, I met you a few years ago before I started my MDiv at Duke. I wanted to know if i could be of help with the lay ministries o chalice bearing and reading. which I have been doing for quite some time now at my home church in Raleigh. If at all possible, I would love to come to Washington or Bath and have some coffee with you to discuss where I am and where I would like to be and listen to your wisdom. my number is 919 592 4770. Many thanks.
Name: WilliamAlep
Comment: Say, you got a nice article.Thanks Again. Really Great. Camilo

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